| Dealing With Wedding Stress |
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taken over your life and turned you into a ball of stress? We'll show you how to relax and get
rid of wedding stress so you can enjoy the planning and the wedding and have fun in the
process.
Its time to take control!
Pinpoint the cause of your wedding stress.
There are reasons for wedding stress, you need to diffuse the problem before stress causes
you to blow up and combust. Is it family stress? Is the stress financial? Is it fear? Is it too
much to do? Analyze the cause, work towards a solution.
Separate Stress from Fear
Are you really stressed or afraid? Fear sometimes masks itself as stress. Brides fear that
something might go wrong. They fear the unknown. Weddings are the big unknown. They
usually haven't been down that path before and fear their decisions and second guess. Don't
second guess. Your first impulse is usually correct.
Separate Nervousness from Excitement
Nervousness and excitement sometimes go hand in hand. Learn to differentiate your
feelings. If you are excited, act like you are excited. If you are nervous, learn to calm down by
following some proven tips below.
Get Organized.
A lot of brides are stressed because they aren't organized, all those pesky details get in the
way. Fretting about the small stuff is a waste of time, get organized! Its never too late to get
organized. Buy a wedding planner or download an online wedding planner and follow the
steps. An organized bride is a happy bride because she knows the plan is getting done and
she can relax and enjoy.
Don't Procrastinate!
If something needs done, just do it. Call your vendors and check on their progress. Work on
the guest list. Handle that detail now while its still small before it gets out of control. Check it
off the list and stop thinking about it.
Don't try to be Martha Stewart and do all the things yourself!
For some reason at wedding time, brides suddenly think that they have to become crafty and
do it all themselves. Martha is amazing, but she has a huge staff that helps her out. Don't
think you can make centerpieces, plan the decor, decorate and every other idea you've come
up with and do it right before the wedding. If you aren't crafty, it will show. If you are, do the
centerpieces way in advance and get help from friends and family. If you can't do it, don't.
You'll waste time and money trying, end up frustrated and stressed.
Delegate
Some tasks are easily delegated to family and friends. If you have a lot of phone calls to
make, have your mother or someone else make the calls for you. Don't be a control freak. If
someone offers their help, take it in the spirit it is offered and thank them profusely.
Cut things you don't need that are causing stress.
Do you really need to make a seating chart for the reception? Can't you just trust your guests
to sit where they want? If Ashley hates Kari, she's not going to sit next to her. You don't have
to referee personal pettiness. Its up to them to act like adults. Reserve tables for the
immediate family members for both families, parents, grandparents, etc., and let the rest of
them choose their own seat. You've freed up a huge chore that isn't necessary and your
stress level should plummet.
Don't strive for perfection.
Every bride wants things to be perfect. The sad reality is that nothing is perfect. I've never
been to a perfect wedding. I've been to amazing gorgeous weddings. Settle for amazing
and gorgeous. Striving for perfection is a waste of your energy.
Expect that things will go wrong.
Yes, there will be some things that will go wrong. Don't fall apart, roll with it. Easier said
than done, right? Most things that go wrong will never be noticed by anyone but you. If the
color is a shade off, its not important. If the napkins have the wrong font, no one will notice.
I once went to a wedding where the alterations weren't completed on the brides dress and
there was a huge pin in the hem. No one noticed, but we ran her into the back room and
hand sewed it. Pack a survival kit for the wedding day and you'll be prepared for anything.
Lower your expectations.
Reread don't strive for perfection. Don't expect everything will come out like the pictures in the
bride's magazines. Those are done by the top stylists with unlimited funds. Don't have
expectations for your wedding that your budget can't meet. Your wedding can be awesome in
any budget.
Weddings aren't a contest and a competition between family and friends.
Too many brides think they have to live up to their friends and families weddings. And not
just live up to it, they feel they have to top it. Its not a competition, its your wedding. Do your
own thing your way, within your budget and don't worry about what people will say. What they
say and their opinion is not your problem. The focus should be on the marriage and NOT on
the party. Shift the priorities onto the marriage aspect and relax.
Copyright 2008 Wedding Loco
rid of wedding stress so you can enjoy the planning and the wedding and have fun in the
process.
Its time to take control!
Pinpoint the cause of your wedding stress.
There are reasons for wedding stress, you need to diffuse the problem before stress causes
you to blow up and combust. Is it family stress? Is the stress financial? Is it fear? Is it too
much to do? Analyze the cause, work towards a solution.
Separate Stress from Fear
Are you really stressed or afraid? Fear sometimes masks itself as stress. Brides fear that
something might go wrong. They fear the unknown. Weddings are the big unknown. They
usually haven't been down that path before and fear their decisions and second guess. Don't
second guess. Your first impulse is usually correct.
Separate Nervousness from Excitement
Nervousness and excitement sometimes go hand in hand. Learn to differentiate your
feelings. If you are excited, act like you are excited. If you are nervous, learn to calm down by
following some proven tips below.
Get Organized.
A lot of brides are stressed because they aren't organized, all those pesky details get in the
way. Fretting about the small stuff is a waste of time, get organized! Its never too late to get
organized. Buy a wedding planner or download an online wedding planner and follow the
steps. An organized bride is a happy bride because she knows the plan is getting done and
she can relax and enjoy.
Don't Procrastinate!
If something needs done, just do it. Call your vendors and check on their progress. Work on
the guest list. Handle that detail now while its still small before it gets out of control. Check it
off the list and stop thinking about it.
Don't try to be Martha Stewart and do all the things yourself!
For some reason at wedding time, brides suddenly think that they have to become crafty and
do it all themselves. Martha is amazing, but she has a huge staff that helps her out. Don't
think you can make centerpieces, plan the decor, decorate and every other idea you've come
up with and do it right before the wedding. If you aren't crafty, it will show. If you are, do the
centerpieces way in advance and get help from friends and family. If you can't do it, don't.
You'll waste time and money trying, end up frustrated and stressed.
Delegate
Some tasks are easily delegated to family and friends. If you have a lot of phone calls to
make, have your mother or someone else make the calls for you. Don't be a control freak. If
someone offers their help, take it in the spirit it is offered and thank them profusely.
Cut things you don't need that are causing stress.
Do you really need to make a seating chart for the reception? Can't you just trust your guests
to sit where they want? If Ashley hates Kari, she's not going to sit next to her. You don't have
to referee personal pettiness. Its up to them to act like adults. Reserve tables for the
immediate family members for both families, parents, grandparents, etc., and let the rest of
them choose their own seat. You've freed up a huge chore that isn't necessary and your
stress level should plummet.
Don't strive for perfection.
Every bride wants things to be perfect. The sad reality is that nothing is perfect. I've never
been to a perfect wedding. I've been to amazing gorgeous weddings. Settle for amazing
and gorgeous. Striving for perfection is a waste of your energy.
Expect that things will go wrong.
Yes, there will be some things that will go wrong. Don't fall apart, roll with it. Easier said
than done, right? Most things that go wrong will never be noticed by anyone but you. If the
color is a shade off, its not important. If the napkins have the wrong font, no one will notice.
I once went to a wedding where the alterations weren't completed on the brides dress and
there was a huge pin in the hem. No one noticed, but we ran her into the back room and
hand sewed it. Pack a survival kit for the wedding day and you'll be prepared for anything.
Lower your expectations.
Reread don't strive for perfection. Don't expect everything will come out like the pictures in the
bride's magazines. Those are done by the top stylists with unlimited funds. Don't have
expectations for your wedding that your budget can't meet. Your wedding can be awesome in
any budget.
Weddings aren't a contest and a competition between family and friends.
Too many brides think they have to live up to their friends and families weddings. And not
just live up to it, they feel they have to top it. Its not a competition, its your wedding. Do your
own thing your way, within your budget and don't worry about what people will say. What they
say and their opinion is not your problem. The focus should be on the marriage and NOT on
the party. Shift the priorities onto the marriage aspect and relax.
Copyright 2008 Wedding Loco
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The Hot List Combating Wedding Stress If you are turning into Bridezilla, take a breather from wedding plans. Don't burn any bridges regret it when the wedding is over. If you have a maid who is giving you trouble, have a heart to heart talk with her to discover the cause of the problem. It could be jealousy, financial or just feeling like she's losing a good friend. Read this: Maidzilla, What's really going on. Keep the wedding in perspective. Focus on the marriage and don't put all your energy into the party. The reality is that its just one day and its just one life with your partner. Don't ever say "Its my day!" and use that as an excuse for bad behavior. Its the groom's day, too. There is no excuse for bad behavior. |
If you've followed the advice above, here are some sure fire tips to combat stress. Take a break from wedding planning. Don't think about the wedding, don't talk about the wedding. Clear your head. Spend quality time with your fiancé. No wedding talk. Take a day at the beach, a picnic in the park, a quiet evening at home just chilling. Take an exercise class. Try yoga, the deep breathing exercises are heavenly. Belly dancing is a great and fun exercise, as is cardio dance, strip aerobics, anything to get your blood moving and burn off the stress AND calories. Bonus, you'll be relaxed and look great in your wedding dress! Schedule a fun day with the girls. Shop, eat lunch, dish and gossip. Don't talk about your wedding, just have fun. While the wedding is your priority, its not THEIR priority. Don't expect them to be as excited as you are. Just concentrate on a girls day out and Schedule a spa day just for you. Enjoy a massage, sit in the whirlpool and relax. Have a manicure and pedicure, facial and waxing. Go ahead, you deserve it! Realize that there is life after the wedding. |